AWASSER Has Located 2,283 Families And Relocated 27

photocreditarabnewsAwasser: Bringing Back Saudi Families From 31 Countries
Arab News | Riyadh
4 July 2016

The Charitable Society for the Welfare of Saudi Families Abroad — Awasser — has been exerting great effort to bring back to the Kingdom Saudi nationals and families that resulted from marriages abroad contracted by means that run contrary to the Kingdom’s regulations.

Awasser Chairman Tawfiq Abdul Aziz Al-Suwailem said during an interview with a local publication that his society “is trying to put a smile on the faces of many Saudi families abroad” by working to reunite them with their relatives in the Kingdom.

“Our work involves direct collaboration with the Ministry of Labor and Social Development, the Ministry of Interior and the Ministry of Foreign Affairs, through the Saudi embassies, in addition to civil society organizations and charities,” said Al-Suwailem, while explaining the mechanism for reaching out to the families abroad.

He also said that 2,283 such families have been found so far in 31 countries around the world by the society and relevant official agencies. Together with their family members, this adds up to 8,012 individuals.

“Some of these families receive financial assistance, others administrative help. About 24 new families were added to the list (receiving assistance) during the last three months, while 47 families were removed from the list either because their situations got better or they have already returned to the Kingdom” said Al-Suwailem.

So far, 27 families — or 67 individuals — returned.

“The return procedure involves receiving the families at the airport, securing temporary residences for them, renting apartments and furnishing them, providing for their living expenses and giving them a national identity card, if they do not have them,” said Al-Suwailem, adding that Awasser constantly extends advice and counseling to the Saudi citizens traveling abroad, including warning them about being lured by marriage brokers and advising them to seek the help of the Saudi embassy officials before taking any step.

Al-Suwailem said there are immoral people who seek to take advantage of Saudis who travel abroad, receiving them at airports and convincing them to do things with, often with dire consequences, most often using young women to trap their victims.

The Ministry of Labor and Social Development grants annual support to Awasser to carry out its work, said the chairman. Private sector institutions also provide aid.

In the course of its operations, the society comes at times across unusual cases, said Al-Suwailem.

“We witnessed a humanitarian issue that greatly affected us while we visited two families in one of the countries. A young man and a young woman had the same father and shared the same family name; having different mothers,and they had never met.

“In another case, a young man came to the society with his mother to invite us to his wedding and said he never knew his father. There are also situations where the father died without telling his family about his second marriage. Lawsuits are filed by the sons of the foreign mother, who claim their inheritance rights.”

Awasser, the first and only Saudi charitable organization authorized for these services, also grants financial support, winter allowance and school assistance to children living abroad, and includes them in King Abdullah scholarship program.

Photo Credit: Arab News

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Saudi Men Who Cook

photocreditgurkangencProud to be married to a Saudi man that cooks and loves it masha’Allah. Also taking this opportunity to promote the restaurant of my husband’s friend, Hamporsche in Riyadh and a unique one I found that reminds me of my Louisiana roots, Creole Restaurant & Cafe in Al-Khobar.

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Cooking By Men
By Lamya Baeshen
Saudi Gazette | Al-Madina
28 June 2016

In “Clash of Civilizations” episode in Selfie2 serial, a Saudi man married to a Saudi American woman impressed by her charm and beauty, thought of breaking the relationship when she told him openly that she did not know cooking and asked him to cook the food she likes the most.

The man got angry as he took it as a humiliation. He shouted at his wife and her father telling he is a man of the orient and does not know cooking and considered cooking as the duty of woman. But the man sacrificed his honor in lieu of her beauty and backed down from his statement.

On Snapchat I follow activities of a number of Saudi scholarship students who pursue their studies abroad. I found them going to market and purchase vegetables, meat and rice and then they will upload pictures of how they prepare food for them using these ingredients.

Of course, they cut onion and tomato, boil water and fry things. They cook everything not only kabsa. They send video clips of cooking to other friends who follow them on Snapchat. Sometimes they show their joint cooking exercise expressing extreme happiness. While various types of food get ready on the stove, these young men sing and dance, expressing their joy and excitement.

Every mother will be worried about her son who has gone abroad for studies thinking he would die of hunger or his stomach would have got trouble eating hamburgers. But this is not always true. Many boys and girls have learned how to prepare various delicious and hygienic dishes.

Young men often go for desert camps in groups and stay away from homes for days. They show their cooking skills by preparing various types of food.
They also make salads and desserts. There are some young men who do not have any shame in telling others that they can cook well. Some of them have attended courses in well known cooking schools of US and Europe and tell the world that they are professional cooks. Many of them appear on TV channels to display their cooking skills.

The man from the orient, if married to a foreign woman, will not find it difficult to prepare food for his small family, especially when he loves to eat a special type of food which his wife is unable to prepare. He will not face any trouble in helping his wife in cooking any type of food. But when a foreign man is married to an orient woman, things would be quite different.

While staying abroad a Saudi student will be doing all jobs at his home such as cleaning, washing and cooking even if he is married to a Saudi woman. But when he returns to the Kingdom, he asks her to do all those works and relaxes in the sofa claiming he is an orient man and does not know cooking.

In all restaurants of the orient you can see men are the main cooks. Similarly, a majority of laundry workers and sweepers of public facilities are men. But when these men reach their homes, they ask their women to do these jobs as if they are made for it and suit their nature. Many men think that if they support women in cooking it would affect their honor.

When women go out to work, there are people who accuse them of snatching away the jobs of men. At the same time we see men have achieved professional experience in many jobs that are suitable for women. They do business by cooking and make good profits.

Many women do the cooking job inside the four walls of their kitchen as if it is her family duty. That too without any material compensation or receiving any respect.

Some experts would come to assess women’s contribution to a country’s progress and say they did not have any in the progress of humanity and they did not make any valuable achievement even in matters in which she is specialized such as cooking and designing.

Eastern men, mostly, do not cook except in the absence of wives and they explore business opportunities where they transform cooking into a profitable venture.

Photo Credit: Gurkan Genc

Further Reading: Documentary, “Saudi Arabia Cooks”

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No Travel Permission From Children’s Father? Mother Can Sue

photocreditnationalgeographicWomen May Sue Children’s Fathers For Refusing Them Permission To Travel
By Fatima Al-Dabyous
Saudi Gazette | Dammam
23 June 2016

The Ministry of Justice has said women can grant travel permission to children under their custody if their fathers refuse to do so.

A source in the ministry said the Supreme Judicial Council ordered all courts in the Kingdom to give priority to cases of mothers suing their husbands or ex-husbands when they do not give travel permission to children under their custody.

“The permission to travel is a legal right of the guardian. However, if the guardian, who is the father of the children even if they were not under his custody, prevents the children from travel, the mother has the right to file a lawsuit against him for preventing the children from traveling as per the mother’s wish,” said the source.

He said such cases are given top priority in courts and are dealt with in the fastest way possible.

“The Ministry of Justice’s General Department of Consultants was studying the possibility of granting travel permission to the mother of the children if they are under her custody and the father would simply receive a phone call regarding the children’s travel. However, the department concluded that the guardian of the children will be the one with the authority of granting them travel permission,” said the source.

The source said all cases should be filed during normal working hours except in emergency cases.

“The defendant is then informed of the lawsuit by delivering a court notice at his place of residence or workplace or to a representative, who can be a relative or colleague at work,” said the source.

The source also said if the defendant or his representative cannot found the notice may be delivered to the district mayor, the police or the head of the tribe where the defendant lives.

“Whoever receives the notification must sign that they have received it. A notice of the delivery is then sent to the defendant with details of where the notification was delivered. If the defendant refuses to receive the notification, a copy of the notification is delivered to the governor’s office,” said the source.

Photo Credit: National Geographic

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Three New Entries Added To The FHWS Matchmaking Forum

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Subject: Parents seeking alliance for daughter
Age: 30
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Message: We are Muslim Pakistani parents seeking an alliance for our daughter whose profile details are below. Height: 5’3 Age: 30 Education: — MBA — BSc Computer Science — American International School Country living in: Saudi Arabia Marital status: Single, never married…
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To read the rest of these posts please email taraummomar @ hotmail dot com for the forum password. May Allah grant everyone success ameen.

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Two Humans Got Married; Racism Wasn’t Invited

photocreditbbcIf it was good enough for the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) to marry a foreigner, why isn’t it good enough for you? Prophet Muhammad’s Mixed And Interfaith Marriages: Safiyyah and Maria

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When Saudi Women Marry Foreigners
By Alma Hassoun and Lamia Estatie
BBC Trending
6 June 2016

“This is how racism falls”. These are the words of a Saudi man who attended the wedding of his relative, a Saudi bride who married a non-Saudi groom.

Perhaps the man did not know that the very short clip he posted on Twitter – supposedly showing part of the wedding celebrations – would spark a nationwide social media debate covering the kingdom’s social politics, racism and women’s rights.

The clip – whose provenance we could not verify – shows men dancing in a circle, with a traditional Syrian chant heard in the background, apparently marking the union of the Saudi woman and her Syrian beau, supposedly in the Saudi city of Medina. More than 50,000 people have used the hashtag “a woman from the Harb tribe marrying a Syrian man in Medina”. The tribe to which the bride belongs, as well as the nationality of the groom were the major points of contention in the virtual debate.

Some comments on social media were jubilant at the thought of an inter-country marriage: “What happened tonight in Medina is a good example of the Quran verse ‘Verily the most honoured of you in the sight of God is (he who is) the most righteous of you,'” was one message.

Others discussed the consequences of marrying ‘foreigners’.

“It is her right to marry whom she chooses, but she can’t come later and shout that her husband and children are foreigners and demand that the nationality is given to them. Think well before you take such a decision,” wrote one tweeter.

We know very few details about the couple in question, although the video seems to indicate that they had the blessing of those in attendance.

Many congratulated the couple, expressing their support for the marriage as a means of combating racism and promoting equality between Saudi men and women: “The most important thing is that he is a Muslim. Say ‘no’ to racism. The law should be equal to both man and woman…”

Others pointed to a discrepancy in attitudes towards the different sexes: “It is fine for a Saudi man to get married to a foreign woman, while the opposite case is forbidden. You wouldn’t make a fuss if a Saudi man was the one marrying a foreigner”

There are examples of interracial relationships in the Koran. And one tweeter gave examples from the time of Prophet Mohammad to show that intermarriage was accepted.

“Bilal bin-Rabah al-Habashi [a companion of the Prophet, who came from the country that is now known as Ethiopia] married Hala, from the Quraysh tribe [one of the most respected Arab tribes which controlled Mecca]. Islam took away these ignorant and racist traditions and you are resurrecting them,” wrote a Saudi architecture student.

Many Saudis were angry that the hashtag was even created to discuss such a personal event. However, many others brought to the fore notions of the superiority of some groups over others. Here are a few of the comments we saw.

“Marriage is a whole life; so it is a big mistake for a Saudi girl to marry a foreigner, a ‘Syrian’ specifically.”

“I wish that she becomes the last Saudi woman who marries a foreigner.”

Another Twitter user wrote: “This is not racism. If you have an authentic and noble steed, would you throw her onto a mule? [No], you would maintain her lineage.”

Saudi laws do not prohibit men and women from marrying outside their nationality, but those who choose to do so have to adhere to certain regulations. Similarly, the process of seeking official approval is often lengthy and drawn out.

Dr Hatoon al-Fasi, a Saudi academic, told BBC Trending that one of her female relatives married a non-Saudi and the process took around 18 months as the groom went through “a long check list.”

She also added that if the couple have children they will not have Saudi citizenship. Dr Al-Fasi said: “Only sons have the right to apply for the Saudi citizenship when they turn 18”. However, the children of Saudi women and foreign fathers get similar treatment to Saudi children in education and other sectors in the country, she added. However every year thousands of Saudi women marry non-Saudis from both Arab and non-Arab origins.

Dr Al-Fasi added that tribal divides within the country were an “increasing phenomenon in the Saudi kingdom”. She said that although the Justice Ministry dropped “incompatibility in lineage” as a legitimate reason for divorce, judges are still divorcing Saudi women from their non-Saudi husbands, in absentia, on these grounds.

Due to a system of guardianship of women in Saudi Arabia, relatives, including uncles, are able to get a woman divorced on the grounds that they have have married “outside their lineage”. Last April, a woman claimed in a video that she was forcibly divorced from her Saudi husband on that basis. Although the Saudi authorities later denied this, saying that incompatibility in lineage is not enough reason to grant a divorce.

Photo Credit: BBC