Things You Should Know Before Marrying A Saudi

News flash: I’m adding this foreword on March 22, 2009. The introduction (first paragraph below) of my article was carried by Saudi Gazette in their newspaper on March 11, 2009. It was published on page 6 in the Opinion section under “Blogosphere: Voices From The Internet” masha’Allah. It is not available on Saudi Gazette’s online news website so I had to have a friend buy the newspaper and bring it to me. Thanks to Mary Ann for being the first to bring this to my attention, otherwise I would have never known!

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Saudis have a unique culture and are bound by complex religious, traditional and tribal codes. For any non-Saudi who has a job offer from a company based in Saudi Arabia, has been invited there as a tourist or intending to marry a Saudi, it is imperative that they should educate themselves on the country, its natives and their way of life. Consequently, I am advocating a thorough investigation of all situations before one commits themselves to a final decision.

On a previous which queried why non-Saudi women thought their Saudi husbands married them, a respondent suggested that I also should have asked whether it would be recommended for non-Saudis to marry Saudis. Additionally, I received a comment on my blog, Future Husbands And Wives Of Saudis, from a Bahraini woman who relayed her fears about marrying a Saudi and moving to Saudi Arabia. I then felt it was essential to write an article extending advice to those marrying Saudis and wanting to live in Saudi Arabia.

I wish someone had given ME advice before I married my Saudi husband. Just so that I knew what I would have been getting myself into and what to expect out of life with a Saudi man and residing in his country. After I created a page titled “Wives Of Saudis” on my now defunct World Of Islam website, one of my first writings was “Advice On Marrying A Saudi And Living In Saudi Arabia”. Following this advent, Future Husbands And Wives Of Saudis was born.

King Fahd himself gave advice on Saudis marrying non-Saudis. As recounted by Abu Ibrahim, King Fahd was quoted as saying:In the past, our men used to go to get married from abroad because they said they wanted educated wives. So we opened schools for our girls, and today we have very beautiful educated women from whom you can get married here. But we must also be alert to the problems we cause when you get married to a woman from abroad. When she gets pregnant, she will miss her family, and ask to go deliver her baby at her mother or sister’s home. You, as the husband, won’t like that, and will want her to deliver here at your mother’s home. Later, she will ask to visit her family abroad to show off her baby, and you will not be happy to travel abroad so much. Disagreements soon follow, and we in the government receive all these complaints and conflicts. The wives feel they are being cruelly denied the love of their families, and the husbands are afraid to lose the wife and children. So, I tell you, it is best that you marry locally and avoid the problems of marrying from outside.”

When reading the below advice of the participants, please remain objective and keep an open mind. These individuals mean well and wish the best for those who want to trudge down the same path as they have. Some of them are long-time residents of Saudi Arabia who have up to 20+ years of experience being married to Saudis masha’Allah. I hope that we will be helping others make an informed decision regarding marrying a non-Saudi and living in Saudi Arabia if they ever choose to do so. In the end its just advice, you can take it or leave it.

RESPONDENT #1

1. Would you recommend marriage to a Saudi? Yes
a. Why or why not: I believe that marriage to a certain person is something that is part of what is written for us, and we shouldn’t decline a proposition simply because one is from a different country or culture than your own.

2. What advice would you give to someone who intends to marry a Saudi? A person intending to marry a Saudi should read, read, and read. First of all, they should study Islaam, whether they are a Muslim or not. The more you understand about the religion, the more you will understand your husband, your in-laws, your neighbors, and the society as a whole. Secondly, you should also study Arabic, so that you will have a basis for more learning upon your arrival. In my personal experience, having some background in the language prior to my arrival made things easier with family and social interactions. Thirdly, you should try to involve yourself with other Saudis. This will give you some insight into cultural differences, and help you to integrate easier. Fourthly, I would advise anyone getting married, whether to a Saudi or otherwise, to study the section in Saheeh Bukhaari on marriage and divorce. This gives each individual a clear idea about rights and responsibilities for both wives and husbands, which can clarify things during any difficulties they might experience later on. Finally, having an open mind will help you through many situations, and try not to judge others when they make mistakes.

3. Would you recommend living in Saudi Arabia for those who marry Saudis? yes or no Yes.
a. Why or why not: I believe that living in Saudi Arabia is a very healthy environment for both adults and children. Although things are changing, in some places for the worse, we still have communities that are safe, drug- and alcohol-free, as well as an overall pleasantly Islaamic society, including conservative dress, hearing the calls to prayer, and what I deem to be a respect of women and their privacy. In addition to these aspects, I believe that most Saudis, as they are very family-oriented, will usually feel more comfortable and happy when surrounded by their families.

4. Any other advice/recommendations you’d like to impart? Just learn to be patient, as things in Saudi take a lot longer to do than most other places!!!

RESPONDENT #2

1. Would you recommend marriage to a Saudi? No, not unless you’re half Saudi at least.
a. Why not: Mainly due to it being a man’s world. Most women come here and complain from the time they arrive until the time they leave. I would say if there were a perfect woman for a Saudi here…in general…it would be one that wants to live near Mecca and be a ‘stay at home’ mom and wife. Men here have maids and their mothers at their beck and call and don’t need a woman for that. Sex? Well, they can have a multitude of partners now with the new Misyar rule. So, what does marriage mean here unless you’re a Saudi? Not much. Saudi’s are very racist in general. They look down on everyone that isn’t tribal. So, even if you become a Saudi, you’re still not one of them….unless your father is.

2. What advice would you give to someone who intends to marry a Saudi? I’d say don’t have any children with him. To marry one and have a wonderful life is one thing, but to marry one and be miserable and make your children miserable is another. Having a second wife is a right of men here and it is becoming a bit of a status symbol to have two…especially a foreigner. I think it’s their way of trying to get others to accept this practice. Some foreign women embrace it….especially if their husbands are very wealthy and if they are the second one. But the majority are usually depressed and their children suffer great distress for what they see as the ‘betrayal’ of them and of their mother.

3. Would you recommend living in Saudi Arabia for those who marry Saudis? no
a. Why not? You will never be accepted into the society as part of it and you will live as an outsider. You will probably live together but seperate lives with your husband. If he divorces you, you will not get half of anything…even if you put in half of the money, unless you get it in writing. He may have other children with other wives that you will never be aware of until he dies. You do not have the support system the Saudis have if anything goes wrong in your marriage. Here, the girls go back to live with their father or their brother. There are good points. With maids and drivers, you can spend more time with your children and your husband. It also depends on whether your husband will mix with other couples and what you want for your own future. The schools are improving, but are still not up to par. If your child has any handicaps, Saudi is not quite prepared yet. And, I see that it will only get worse because the population is 75% under the age of 25 now.

4. Any other advice/recommendations you’d like to impart? Marry a Saudi if you will, but don’t do it and live in his country with the idea that he will stick to the original promises he made to you when you were a young bride. And don’t think that you are strong enough to change the people and help them ‘see the light.’ Their traditions run very deep. Also know that it’s ok for a man (and his friends) to lie to his wife to save his marriage. If you do marry a Saudi, go in with your eyes wide open and know the possibilities. Then, pray to God, that you will be one of the lucky ones. I’ve been married now for almost 30 years and we were together as friends for 4 years before that. I’d say, so far, so good, but I’ve seen many mishaps with others along the way. We came close to divorce a few times as well. There are no guarantees in any marriage anywhere in the world. But, if yours fails here, your childlren can be taken from you, you can lose your house, and you can be kicked out at will. Your husband has the upper hand, and if he’s the type to use it, you could be in big trouble. Saudi Arabia has changed a lot since I got married, but I think that further changes will come more slowly. Read as much as you can and chat with others who have lived here and been married to Saudis….both good and bad experiences. Then, you need to look at your own situation. Why do you want to marry a Saudi? Are you trying to escape your family? Be sure you know what you’re doing….and think of the little ones that you will bring into the relationship.


RESPONDENT #3

1. Would you recommend marriage to a Saudi? depends on the situation and the person. Yes for cases in which there is already a love relationship. No for cases in which the parties can easily marry someone else.
a. Why or why not: I say yes if there’s already love because once you truly love someone, you’ll always want him/her, so I wouldn’t wanna break that up. No for those cases where Saudi men say they want to marry a foreigner but don’t have anyone in mind. I believe they should look for a Saudi woman to marry before looking for a foreigner.

2. What advice would you give to someone who intends to marry a Saudi? make sure you understand your future together…where you will live, will he let you leave Saudi Arabia alone or with the kids, what happens to you and the kids if he dies or you get a divorce.

3. Would you recommend living in Saudi Arabia for those who marry Saudis? yes or no depends on the family and the woman
a. Why or why not: If the family is open-minded and accepting of the marriage, then I think the couple can be very happy living in Saudi Arabia. Also, some women cannot stand not being able to be fully independent, and in Saudi Arabia, you can never be independent as a woman.

4. Any other advice/recommendati ons you’d like to impart? just think about how your life will be. talk openly with the Saudi you wish to marry so that you both go into the marriage with common goals and expectations. Also, study the saudi culture and try to meet saudis before moving to saudi arabia.

RESPONDENT #4

1. Would you recommend marriage to a Saudi? yes or no
a. Why or why not: No problem marrying a Saudi, but don’t move to Saudi Arabia. Men are men and they are different than women. So, the struggles of marriage that just are part of marriage will be very heavy when the woman’s support system, her ‘relief’ system as my Saudi husband likes to call it, is not there. No sisters no close friends, no outlet to relieve stress. This matters when it is gone.

2. What advice would you give to someone who intends to marry a Saudi? Marry a Saudi knowing you can make your own marriage contract, such as no second wife, and whatever else, as long as it is not haram. Woman should be aware of this point. Many woman are converts and do not know they can make these conditions. The Saudi man does, but does not mention it to the foreign wife. There is deceit in not giving full information.

3. Would you recommend living in Saudi Arabia for those who marry Saudis? yes or no
a. Why or why not: I don’t reccommend any woman living in a woman-hating land. Some may see it as a challenge to change the system, and they can flourish because they like to fight for things. But no, don’t move to Saudi. Stay abroad with your Saudi husband. The Saudi mindset is too old and if you don’t have the passion to try and change it, don’t come.

4. Any other advice/recommendations you’d like to impart?
Saudis lead different lives when not in their home country. Don’t ever think they will stay the same. They will not, on the most part. 99.9 percent of the time they will become the regular Saudi that we all read about in the American news. Also, FYI, BIG FYI to all woman. When a woman marries a Saudi she must understand the crucial control that the mother and father of the Saudi man have over their son, and will have over the daughter-in-law. My big advice is, get to know the inlaws. Talk to other relatives such as wives of cousins, etc. Find out what kind of dynamics the family has. Some are easy going, but some are very old world. The same thing is true in all the world…When you marry, you marry the whole family. Be prepared that the mother and father-in-law will often have nearly full control and knowledge of everything related to the new daughter in law, sex, number of children she will have, how she will decorate her home, how she will treat the in laws, etc etc etc. IF this is not straight before marriage and the woman doesn’t have any idea, tell her to run FAR AWAY. If the man is not forth coming about his parents, then he is hiding the control factor. RUN! Of course, if you like to be controlled, go ahead with it all.

RESPONDENT #5

1. Would you recommend marriage to a Saudi? yes or no
a. Why or why not: Yes, because of the religion. Islam is the correct religion to be following as prophet mohamed PBUH was the last prophet.

2. What advice would you give to someone who intends to marry a Saudi?
Meet is family, see if they are open minded or fundalmentalist. See if they have traveled much outside the kingdom. Beaware of the living conditions and how much your husband has. We he be be willing to let you go ever summer back to your home country and could he afford to do this. This is very important. Can he afford to get you into a private beach if you so wish to swim. That was important for me but mayb e not for others as i was a competitive swimmer in Canada.

3. Would you recommend living in Saudi Arabia for those who marry Saudis? yes or no
It depends on the previous answer. For me it was a yes for others it maybe a no. But you should be sure and no go in blindly. i was blinded to how strict Riyadh was as i had only visited prior to marriage Jeddah. I was shocked how closed the people were and how many cover their faces and had their abayas dragging behind them on the floor like a wedding dress. I did not like this at all i felt out of place and just want to go back to my own country. Luckily my husband moved to Jeddah the following year. He took a salary cut.

4. Any other advice/recommendations you’d like to impart?
Ev en though your husband maybe open minded his extended family may not agree and if he should die accidentally you would be as a woman at the mercy of this family. That is why it is important to meet the entire family even if your husband is not close to them. If they are closed minded i would recommend living in your own country and if he really loves you he will move for you.

RESPONDENT #6

1. Would you recommend marriage to a Saudi? yes or no NO
a. Why or why not: MARIAGE IS DIFFICULT, BUT IN SAUDI ARABIA IT BECOMES TOO DIFFICULT IF ONE IN A PAIR IS NON-SAUDI. THE COUNTRY IS NOT HOSPITABLE TO EXPATRIATES, AND TIES TO THE EXPATRIATE FAMILY COME UNDER GREAT PRESSURE AND TENSION. THERE IS NO NEED FOR THE ADDED DIFFICULTIES.

2. What advice would you give to someone who intends to marry a Saudi? (A) TRY TO AVOID IT; (B) WRITE A MARRIAGE CONTRACT THAT IS REVIEWED BY A KNOWLEDGE-ABLE PERSON; (C) BE READY FOR DIFFICULTIES AND DIVORCE; (D) DELAY HAVING A CHILD UNTIL YOU FEEL SECURE.

3. Would you recommend living in Saudi Arabia for those who marry Saudis? yes or no NO
a. Why or why not: (A) WOMEN CAN’T DRIVE; (B) CLOTHING RESTRICTIONS; (C) PUBLIC BEHAVIOR RESTRICTIONS; (D) MANY OTHER PROBLEMS IF THE EXPATRIATE SPOUSE CAN’T SPEAK ARABIC AND IS NOT MUSLIM AND IS NOT VERY PATIENT.

4. Any other advice/recommendations you’d like to impart?
(A) RAISING CHILDREN IN SAUDI ARABIA IS THE BIGGEST PROBLEM; (B) THE SCHOOL SYSTEM IS A DISASTER; (C) YOUR LIFE IS RUINED WITH STRANGE MAIDS AND DRIVERS LIVING IN YOUR HOUSEHOLD; (D) SOCIAL LIFE IS SEGREGATED AND DESTROYS FAMILY TIES; (E) CUSTOMS, TRADITIONS AND VALUES WORK AGAINST MARRIAGE.


RESPONDENT #7

1. Would you recommend marriage to a Saudi? yes or no
a. Why or why not: No…culture too different; laws totally in favor of Saudi.

2. What advice would you give to someone who intends to marry a Saudi? Don’t, unless you can guarantee you will only live in the U.S. (you can visit Saudi though)

3. Would you recommend living in Saudi Arabia for those who marry Saudis? yes or no No.
a. Why or why not: Everything stacked in favor of Saudis; Saudi society very insular, rigid, unaccepting; limited opportunites for women, children, foreigners

4. Any other advice/recommendati ons you’d like to impart?
Think a million times before you take a huge gamble with your and your future children’s lives.

RESPONDENT #8

1. Would you recommend marriage to a Saudi? yes or no
a. Why or why not: Marriage to a Saudi is like marriage to any other nationality outside your own that entails a different culture and upbringing. Some things will be challenging because of the cultural and values differences. So a clear yes or no answer is not possible. It has nothing to do with the person being “Saudi” because “Saudi” is such a huge generalization that cannot be boxed to represent specific characteristics that apply to all Saudis. It really does depend on the individual and no one can give you a Yes or No without knowing that person, which is the wisdom behind Islam’s advice to investigate the individual and ask those who know him or her well what their opinion is of the person’s character.

2. What advice would you give to someone who intends to marry a Saudi?
Outside of Saudi Arabia, it is very difficult to tell what the person is like when living in Saudi Arabia amongst his family and surroundings and cultural expectations. So be aware that things could be very different once you are married and living within the circle of his life in his country. Try to find out as much as possible what it will be like for you, how he will deal with things that are important to you in your life when faced with family and society pressures and expectations.

3. Would you recommend living in Saudi Arabia for those who marry Saudis? yes or no
a. Why or why not: If you are prepared to adapt your life and expectations to life in Saudi Arabia, yes. If not, then certainly not at all.

4. Any other advice/recommendations you’d like to impart? Non-Muslims should be aware that families are very expecting that a non-Muslim spouse will become Muslim at some point. It might not be of importance to your Saudi spouse but of you do not become a Muslim it can present many problems for you as a couple down the road, especially if children are involved. Also be aware that even though things are changing here in Saudi Arabia and far from what they used to be 20 years ago, most people here are still very conservative. The push for reform has a very small number of people behind it who do not represent the majority of the population. You would do best to respect the customs and expectations as much as possible, especially modest dress and etiquette for your gender and try to meet family customs and norms. This will earn you much more respect and appreciation than an “I’ll live as I wish” attitude which can drive a wedge between you and your spouse and his extended family and friends.

RESPONDENT #9

MY ANSWER WOULD BE NO, AS IT WOULD BE TO ANYONE MARRYING A PERSON NOT FROM THEIR OWN COUNTRY. I AM HAPPY WITH MY LIFE AND WOULDN’T CHANGE A THING, BUT I HAVE SEEN TOO MANY WOMAN LIVE UNHAPPY LIVES DUE TO RESISTANCE ON THE PART OF EITHER HUSBAND OR WIFE. SAUDI MEN ARE A BIT DIFFERENT WHEN THEY LIVE OUTSIDE THE COUNTRY, AND REVERT TO THEIR SAUDI WAYS WHEN THEY COME BACK AND NOT ALL WOMEN ARE WILLING TO CHANGE AND BECOME “SAUDI-IZED”. AND MY MAIN CONCERN ON THIS IS THE CHILDREN, IN THE EVENT OF DIVORCE 9 TIMES OUT OF 10 THE CHILDREN WILL NOT HAVE CONTACT WITH ONE OF THE PARENTS. THIS IS JUST MY PERSPECTIVE 🙂

RESPONDENT #10

Actually I think I would recommend a Saudi Husband.. I think they or should I say the culture and Islam values a marriage contract much more than western men.. (Yes, im taking the liberty of generalizing) but after seeing so many of my American friends and family divorced, due to affairs of their husbands, cheating, adultery etc.. I know Saudi men do this too, but from what ive seen, its less in the group I know or those Im around here in Saudi.. I often wonder if I had not married my Saudi man and stayed and married an American man, would I be divorced by now? Everyone in my family in America are.. They are good people. I wonder why this happens, is it the environment? The media, the society that allows men to think that they can really see if the grass is greener on the other side of the fence? Anyways.. back to the question at hand.. yes, Id recommend a Saudi man any day! ^_^

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Tara Umm Omar

American married to a Saudi.

21 thoughts on “Things You Should Know Before Marrying A Saudi”

  1. >My Dear sister Tara: ur blog is really best.I love ur all posts.Human nature is almost equall.What we get easily has no value for us while as what we get very difficultly it seems great to us.We marry outside because we think the far seem is water in desert.But when we reach it.It is reflection of sand……………What colour should i colour my heart till it gets killed…………….The fact is that we humans r bad.otherwise we should not decieve eachother…..we r those who wanted to get the kingdom that Allah alone has by eating from restricted tree……………In present world none place is good..Many times i feel that why we got born?…………..just to get sins in our account……….

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  2. >My Dear sister Tara: ur blog is really best.I love ur all posts.Human nature is almost equall.What we get easily has no value for us while as what we get very difficultly it seems great to us.We marry outside because we think the far seem is water in desert.But when we reach it.It is reflection of sand……………What colour should i colour my heart till it gets killed…………….The fact is that we humans r bad.otherwise we should not decieve eachother…..we r those who wanted to get the kingdom that Allah alone has by eating from restricted tree……………In present world none place is good..Many times i feel that why we got born?…………..just to get sins in our account……….

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  3. >I don’t have sister.only one elder brother….But Allah know why when ever i visit taras blog i feel as if she is my real sister……….may be it is my wrong emotions………Allah knows well……….but i will remain visiting………………………Dear Tara it is great to write and real truth about some country….u r really genius……We should learn from u….

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  4. >Actually i should thank u because i have learned alot from u…while as u have not even got good response or comment from me….what bad i am…..

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  5. >WHAT TYPE OF FRIENDSHIP IS IT THAT FRIENDS ARE TEACHERS…………..SOMEONE WHO TRUSTED ME AND SHARED MY TENSION SHOULD HAD BEEN MY FRIEND……..

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  6. >I want to just write comments the whole night……..But my eyes say no……just like u have written should non-saudi live in saudi after marriage.NO.NO.NO………I think i should now sleep..it is 12:30AM now ……………………..”RABI INI LIMA ANZALTA ILAYA MIN KHIREIN FAKEER”………..Best for u …and your son Ummar……….I wanted u to email me…..but i am too bad for it……well ok……wasalamualikum………….

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  7. >Do u know my sister tara.last year i applied for a job to an gulf company.The manager of the company didn’t took me as mech engr only because of two main reasons:1/That i am full of emotions.2/Iam islamic. I will post his email messages in new blog insAllah soon.But i think he was right.He needed cheaters in his company those who doent care about any thing..While as i like to give hardship to me and comfort to others…..same is when i write any comment i write in high emotions…so i cann’t write same…………………. i will like to chat with u………but u think iam bad …..ok………

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  8. >…..In my childhood i picked for majnu (lover)…………………………………………….. …Picked stone but remembered my head…………………………………….

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  9. >……..once when i was in my 1oth (senior school) standard i thought that only arab people r best…especially saudi they follow islam strictly..But right now i believe that Allah doesn’t looks colour,creed language or religion or place to who ever he wishes delivers Imaan automatically…..My sister Tara is really an example for me all the life i live……she is among great muslim….In my view saudi government should make some criterea where under those best in imaan and Aqeeda can get saudi citizenship….

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  10. >Saudis are well known for their xenophobia and racist attitude. Personally, I would NOT marry a Saudi, and I would do everything in my power to discourage a friend from marrying one, and even worse, moving to Saudi Arabia. While I think that all people are equal, I believe that you get what you deserve. If Saudis did not treat foreigners with so much disdain, then maybe we would have more favourable opinions of them. Also, if Saudis did not treat women with so much disrespect (and the amusing thing is that the Saudis claim they are respecting women) then maybe they would not constantly be at the centre of various women’s rights furors. I think that Saudis are incredibly racist, incredibly ignorant of the world around them, incredibly deluded (about their treatment of women)and incredibly and unnecessarily full of themselves. And I am not saying this to be mean. I know that this does not apply to every single Saudi in the world, but as a country, the description generally fits.All other countries try to be welcoming and hospitable, so what makes Saudis think that somehow they are more special than the remaining 5 billion plus human beings on the planet. Every single one of us was created by Allah/God, so no human being has the right to look down on another, for ANY reason. But inexplicably, Saudis do. They make other people feel unwelcome and unwanted, and they come up with silly laws that grossly violate human rights. Somehow I don’t see the respect of women part in flogging a 75 year old woman do you? And where in the Qur’an does it say that women should not drive. I stand to be corrected, but if I’m not mistaken, the Qur’an was written LONG before the invention of cars. So what religious justification do they have for preventing women from driving? There is none. It’s just a bunch of selfish men palling around and trampling everyone else underfoot.So, Saudi Arabia can keep their men. We don’t want them. They think they’re special and better than everyone else, so frankly they should just keep to themselves and keep their xenophobia and racism within their borders. And they can call me when they become a huge inbred country full of paranoid families desperate to maintain their “pure blood”.As if.

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  11. >Marrying a Saudi?? well for me insha allah I will marry a saudi, I know many, many are my friends, brothers and sisters, i recently converted to Islam. One of my wishes is to live, work, marry and have children with a man from saudi arabia, most of those i know are amazing men and women and I don't walk blindly into it, I know what is expected, I don't believe anyone can make this choice It is ure own, whether you want it or not it is up to ure heart,

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  12. >Angel–thank you for commenting. Interesting blog you have! You are wise to recognize that there are challenges one needs to be aware of, and would be going in to a cross cultural relationship with your eyes wide open. I hope you find the right Saudi for you and that you have a long and harmonious marriage. Part of how to do that is to expect the unexpected! All the best.

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  13. >Angel- Welcome to the blog and thank you for commenting. Congrats on becoming a new Muslim! I am glad to hear that you will not blindly enter into marriage with a Saudi. Please continue to educate yourself and ask questions about Saudi men AND living in Saudi Arabia. Some day they all want to return home after living abroad. Some never do but its best to be prepared so you're not shocked when it happens. I can't stress enough how vital it is to be well informed about the culture and country before making such a big step. May Allah grant you a righteous brother who loves you unconditionally and treats you well ameen. Keep in touch…one day you may have a personal story to share with us 🙂

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  14. >I'm just a non-saudi who totally in love with a saudi man and really curious to know is it possible to be with him? and then i came across your blog. Thank you for posting these. It's really give me ideas. Truely, i don't see any chances i can be his wife as his parents have quite old fashion mind and he's a good son which is i love in him. I may have to give up but just don't know when. It's so hard to stop my feeling for him.

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  15. >Anonymous- You're welcome. Try to make the best decision using your mind, not your heart. Love can blind you to not seeing your Saudis true colors, the signals that should alert you he's not suitable for you and incompatible with you.

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