Saudi Women Married To Non-Saudi Men In Dire Straits

photocreditarabnewsSaudi Women Married To Foreigners Urge Govt To Solve Their Problems
Arab News | Jeddah
6 March 2015

Ali is sure that he will pack his bags to leave the Kingdom at the end of this year and head to the United States or a European country to enroll in the King Abdullah Scholarship Program, where the Ministry of Education will take care of his expenses for the whole period of his studies. His cousin Basem is packing too, but to go to Egypt to join military service, now that he is turned 18.

For some people this can sound strange, but the reality is that Ali was born to two Saudi parents, while Basem has a Saudi mother and an Egyptian father. Their paths will eventually separate, and Basem’s situation (having a Saudi mother and a foreign father) can’t even be compared to the years before the late King Abdullah issued decrees giving rights to Saudi women who are married to foreigners.

Many Saudi women married to foreigners said the law still doesn’t fathom their situation and hasn’t done them justice, just because they are women, which increases their burden. Many women in this situation claim that the common thought in the Kingdom is that they are being punished for marrying a foreigner.

The demeaning glances, even though they are less intense now, are accompanied by verbal comments, women say. Most of them who made the decision of marrying foreigners looked for family stability, which should be guaranteed by the system for everyone in the country, whether man or woman.

The number of Saudi females married to non-Saudis currently stands at 700,000, representing around 10 percent of the overall population. The Ministry of Justice issued a report in 2012 stating that the number of Saudi women who marry foreigners is on the rise.

The report revealed that 13,117 Saudi women married foreigners in 2012, a much higher number compared to the 2,583 Saudi men who married foreign women the same year.

Rawan, who married a non-Saudi in 2008, describes her life as chaotic. Her suffering is embodied in the fact that she has to cross the border to renew the visa. She often pictures herself as lost between borders, living in a tent in the desert. “I can’t count the number of times I traveled from Saudi Arabia to Dubai, to renew my husband’s visa, under the title husband to Saudi citizen and the father of a Saudi citizen,” she said.

During her pregnancy, she had to travel to Dubai for one day, and it was impossible to board the plane when she was eight months’ pregnant. “I had no choice but to go through land ports and then to the embassy. This coincided with the Haj season, and the embassy doesn’t renew visas at that particular time,” she added.

Rawan’s suffering wasn’t limited to issuing a visa, which can only be renewed three times, she also fought to register her son in kindergarten. “I suffered while looking for a kindergarten prepared to take my child without a residency visa, and all of them stressed the importance of bringing his residency ID before he finishes kindergarten,” she added.

She describes her situation as sad and funny at the same time, pointing to the guardianship issue. “Before my father died, he was my guardian, and now I am married but my brother is my guardian. He is the one who finalizes my travel permit procedures, not my husband.

After I got married, I received a marriage contract with the following statement written on the periphery, ‘It is essential to go to Civil Status Department to transfer her name to the husband’s register.’ When I went to Civil Status Department, they told me I need to bring my husband’s residency visa number to be able to transfer my name to my husband’s register,” she said.

Rawan’s suffering echoes with the other 700,000 Saudi women married to foreigners. They said decisions issued by the late King Abdullah works in their favor and eases their suffering, but the system doesn’t consider them as citizens. For these women, one of their saddest realities, is the fact that they can’t give their children the nationality even though they live in their country.

In recent years, Saudi children born to foreign fathers were able to study in government schools and universities, but they won’t be allowed to enroll in the scholarship program. They have the right to work and be treated like Saudis when calculating Saudization rates, but at the end of the day he isn’t a citizen, unlike Saudi children born to a foreign mother and a Saudi father. They have the right to get aid from the labor Ministry’s Hafiz program, but they don’t have the right to receive nationality, in addition to the problems surrounding the iqama.

Photo Credit: Arab News

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How Does An Eritean/Ethiopian Born In Saudi Arabia Marry An American?

A beautiful Eritean wedding masha'Allah.
A beautiful Eritean wedding masha’Allah

Cassandra,

Wa alaikum as-salam! I am so pleased to know that you have gotten over Faris and rewarded for your perseverance with a brother who will treasure you and treat you like gold insha’Allah. Because your fiance does not have Saudi citizenship, he does not fall into any of the categories listed in the Ministry of Interior marriage permit guidelines. He lives legally in Saudi Arabia but studies in England and you live in America…those are three different situations. If he plans on returning to Saudi Arabia after his studies are complete, you would need an entry visa and then once you arrive, transfer that to an iqamah. I am assuming that you will not live with him in England, America or any other country because then that would involve other marriage and immigration laws. But even if you decide not to reside in Saudi Arabia, maybe you would want to visit one day with him. In that case, he would need to apply for a visa for you at the Saudi Embassy. So you both need to first discuss where you’re going to live and if not in Saudi Arabia, if you will be traveling with him from time to time to the kingdom. Since you are not residing in Saudi Arabia, I would first consult with the Saudi Embassy in the United States AND England about the rules for an American marrying an Eritean/Ethiopian born in Saudi Arabia to 1) live in Saudi Arabia and/or 2) visit Saudi Arabia. I hope that makes sense insha’Allah. I would appreciate it if you would follow up with the procedures for your particular case so that FHWS readers can benefit. FHWS readers: if you know the correct process, please use the comments section to explain. Thank you,

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Your name, nickname or anonymous: Cassandra

Type or copy/paste your submission here: Salam, I hope that this Ramadan is finding you well and connected.

One of the things that you said to me in the time that we spoke was that I should be looking for a man who will love and respect me for all of the the good things that I can provide, and one who isn’t going to be offended by my desire to keep myself physically closed to him until after marriage. After a very long and lonely winter, where therapy to fix my issues from dealing with the mess Faris left was pretty much the only thing that I could manage, I ended up meeting a good and kind man who grew up in Saudi who has recently expressed a desire to marry me.

I can’t really seem to navigate what category he falls into. His family emigrated to KSA from Eritrea during the 1980’s when there was political unrest in Eritrea. His family has been living in Saudi for the past 30 years under a Saudi national permit, and his father also owns an importing/exporting business in KSA. He himself was born in KSA, but he says that he is not considered legally to be a Saudi citizen (I am assuming because his family is ethnically Eritrean/Ethiopian). Currently, he is on a visa to study in England, but was not eligible for the Saudi scholarship – which is another reason why I don’t feel that he would fall into the same category of rules for the Saudi marriage permission, being a national and not a citizen.

I looked at the text on the embassy’s website, but it’s difficult to garner how or if nationals are treated differently from citizens as far as the marriage permission is concerned. Do you have anything you can point me to?

I wasn’t sure if this was entirely relevant to your blog submissions on the topic, but if you like I can post this there so that others may have access to any information as well?

Shukran,
Cassandra

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Mother Has Reservations About Daughter Marrying A Saudi; Just Wants Her To Be Happy

motherhoodGetterdunn91,

You have reservations regarding your daughter marrying a Saudi and they are spot on. First of all, in order to receive a government scholarship, Saudis have to sign a contract agreeing that they will not marry a non-Saudi while studying. Should the government find out, the consequence of defying that is lost of the scholarship and possibly having to pay it all back. Secondly, there is risk of losing the student visa and being deported from the United States. I would rather your daughter be married Islamically as soon as possible but the law is the law. Her Saudi must do it right from the beginning and that means obeying the Saudi law and not reneging on the contract he made with the government. Since he has been refused by a Prince, there is not much else that can be done. Maybe go to another Prince?

I want to call to your attention the fact that this Saudi has not told his father yet. Saudi families are notorious for not accepting marriages between Saudis and non-Saudis. The resistance that they put up to such an arrangement can make or break the relationship. It is common that they buckle under pressure and break off the marriage plans. Others will persevere and go through with the marriage no matter what their family says or does to them. I hope your daughter’s Saudi is the latter.

I’d hate to see your daughter hurt too. I say, go with your gut instincts. But more importantly, if she is Muslim, I recommend that she ask Allah for guidance in making the right decision through the istikhara prayer. Her Saudi should do the same.

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Your name, nickname or anonymous: getterdunn91

Type or copy/paste your submission here: My 20 year old American daughter has fallen in love with a student from Saudi Arabia. He has finished his Master’s Degree in Special Education and plans to stay in the USA until completing his PhD (4 years). He has to leave our area but remain in the US, to attend a different college. Their plan was for her to remain behind and finish her 2 yr undergraduate courses.

Now they have decided to marry with a Muslim ceremony without getting permission from his Country. He is 26 years old and has already been turned down verbally at his Prince’s office, due to his age. He does not want to lose his scholarship, salary from his University in Saudi Arabia and he has yet to tell his father of his plans.

My husband refuses to sign any papers, ever. “I do not own her and she has the right to decide for herself.” But they will not marry under US law, where she can make her own decision.

Her fiance is pushing for either this move (secret Muslim marriage and moving 12 hours away) or just completely break off their relationship.

I hate to see her hurt, but after supporting him in his studies for 4 years, he may not even be able to legally marry her. If they have children before they get marriage permission, if they get permission and she can’t live the Saudi lifestyle…if, if, if….

Do you have any suggestions that would assist her in making a decision? We will support her in her decision. I know we can see into the future. All we want is her happiness.

Are you a Saudi woman married to a non-Saudi man: No

Are you a non-Saudi woman married to a Saudi man: No

Are you a Saudi man married to a non-Saudi woman: No

Are you a non-Saudi man married to a Saudi: No

Are you submitting a personal story or an interview: Personal story

Mori And Eman Have Questions

photocreditbellafaithdesignPlease contact Mori and Eman directly using their email. Edited…grammar and spelling inserted correctly where necessary. Thanks, Tara Umm Omar

Your name, nickname or anonymous: Mori
Email address : Gamila0131@gmail.com

Type or copy/paste your submission here: Five years ago I met my husband (Saudi), during a whirlwind romance. I got pregnant and our first child was born, out of wedlock, as so many are in the US. He left soon after our son was born and I didn’t see him again for two years. After we had a long distance marriage, and trouble with our visa, I found myself in Riyadh! Everything seemed okay for the first few months, then I began seeing less and less of him. At the time, he was honest with me and told me what he was up to. Despite my protests, he did as he liked anyway. I have been living in Riyadh for two years with my two children. My husband has been in jail in Malaz for the past 8 months and I’m done! I want a divorce! Please if anyone has any advice or information as to how to get this started and finished peacefully, my ears are open. I do not want to move back to the US. Surprisingly, I love it here. I have a great job and my kids are young. So is it asking too much to be granted a divorce, custody of my children and the right to reside here in KSA? I am Muslim. I can support my family financially without any problems and I have my own home. Without stating his exact offenses as to why he is imprisoned, let’s just say it was very illegal. Do I have a leg to stand on?

Are you a Saudi woman married to a non-Saudi man?: No
Are you a non-Saudi woman married to a Saudi man?: Yes
Are you submitting a personal story or an interview?: Personal story

Your name, nickname or anonymous: Eman
Email address : ascastillorrt@yahoo.com

Type or copy/paste your submission here: Salam, I am a Filipina and I got married to a Saudi man three years ago in Makkah. We don’t have the marriage permission here in Saudi Arabia. What we do is when we go to the Philippines for vacation, we make a Shari’a marriage contract. I came here on a domestic helper visa and he is my kafeel. Is it possible for us to get the marriage permission? I worked in a hospital before and I want to work again. His first wife is a Filipina too. Is it possible for him to get the marriage permission even though he already got it before? The first wife is ill. Please help. JazakAllahu khair.

Are you a Saudi woman married to a non-Saudi man?: No
Are you a non-Saudi woman married to a Saudi man?: Yes
Are you submitting a personal story or an interview?: Personal story

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Cassandra Needs Her Questions Answered

photocreditbellafaithdesignFHWS readers: comments are closed so please email Cassandra directly. Thanks for helping me help others, Tara Umm Omar

Name: Cassandra Hinton
Email: hintoncassandra at gmail dot com
What was the marriage permission process like for you from beginning to end? Enter the details here: Asalamu Alaikom wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu.

I actually have a question. My intend husband currently works and lives in Riyadh, Saudi Arabia. I accepted his marriage proposal and he wants me to move there to marry and live with him. I agreed. I am unsure what the procedure is for marrying a non-Saudi citizen. I have my proof of shahada from Al-Azhar in Cairo, Egypt. I have my valid passport and another passport as proof of citizenship in case I lose the one I’m using for travel. What steps do we need to take to make my arrival as smooth as possible? Which visas should we apply for and what other documentation do we need?

I currently reside in the United States of America.

Jazaki’Allahu khair for taking the time to read this.

Fi Amanullah

What is your nationality?: American and Panamanian

What is the nationality of your spouse?: Yemassee

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Prince Khaled Al-Faisal Helps Arab Woman Reclaim Daughter Taken By Saudi Ex-Husband (Arabic And Italian Translations)

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A friend sent me this story last year (thanks for the alert sis). I saved it and waited patiently for Allah to send me someone to translate it from Arabic to English. Maya, jazaki’Allahu khair for contributing to FHWS and translating feesabillah.

“Rabigh (Arabic:رابغ) is an ancient town on the western coast of Saudi Arabia (Red Sea). It is in Makkah Province. It used to be named “Al-Johfa” until the early years of the 17th century. In some ancient stories the town had been completely destroyed through a sea water. When it was rebuilt it was renamed as “Rabigh”.” (Wikipedia)

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“Sabq” Efforts Succeeded In Solving Their Problem And Resulted In A Meeting Overshadowed By Tears
By Fahd Al-Manjumi
Sabq | Makkah
14 October 2012
English translation by Maya

Photo caption: Al-Faisal Fulfilled His Promise: “Rabegh’s Divorcee” Embraces Her Daughter After She Was Taken Away From Her By “Deception”

Governor of the Makkah region, Prince Khaled Al-Faisal, fulfilled his promise and enabled an Arab divorcee to meet with her nine year old daughter at the Care And Social Protection Home in Jeddah.

“Sabq” raised the issue of “Rabegh’s Divorcee” with officials and competent authorities when they received a call from the divorcee, which confirmed that her husband took away her daughter by deception after the court ruled for the child’s custody in her favor. And in spite of this divorce from her husband, an exit visa was stamped in her passport and iqamah.

“Sabq” documented and photographed the meeting of the child “Sh. S” and her mother in the Care And Social Protection Home as the promise by Prince Khaled Al-Faisal was implemented. He had met with the 26 year old divorcee last Tuesday morning when she visited his office at the Bureau of the Emirate in Jeddah and promised to help solve the case, permit her to stay in Saudi Arabia and try to reclaim custody of her daughter.

“Sabq” learned that the meeting between the child and the mother was emotional and filled with tears as confirmed by sources from within the House of Social Protection. Before meeting her daughter, the mother was going through psychological pressure and a hunger strike but soon changed when she saw her daughter and embraced her.

The divorcee said to “Sabq” as she told her story, “I spent more than 12 days in detention at the Rabigh police center with no charge, only because I am a divorcee. And my ex-husband stamped my passport and residence card for an exit visa out of Saudi Arabia after deceiving me by taking my nine year old daughter despite the custody court order.”

She added, “My story began ten years ago when I married a Saudi citizen as a second wife and had my only daughter. A short while after the birth of my child, he divorced me. The judge issued a custody paper to me for my child, provided I do not remarry. I agreed, took the child and traveled to my country.”

She continued, “Throughout the period I spent with my family, the father did not visit his daughter and did not ask about her. He took advantage of an emergency situation we were experiencing, called me and said, ‘I want to remarry you, have our daughter with us and pay a new dowry’. He stated that he will bring a fatwa allowing my marriage to him again but my parents refused and said, ‘This is a traitor.'”

The woman continued her story, saying, “After his insistence and fake promises, I decided to return to him due to my circumstances and harsh living. He planned for my escape from my parents’ house to go back to Saudi Arabia and issued me a wife visa. When I went with him to one of the villages in Rabigh, he kept promising to remarry me. To my surprise and astonishment, he came to me with flight tickets, my passport stamped with an exit visa and my divorce paper, planning to steal my daughter from me”.

She added, “I then fled and walked on foot a distance of five kilometers until I got to the police station in Rabigh where my husband was present with the tickets and stamped passport, asking them to deport me. Then I was arrested and detained for more than 12 days without a case.”

“Sabq” contacted officials in Makkah and informed them of the woman’s situation. Directives were issued from the Emirate of the Makkah region to transfer her to the Care And Social Protection Home and to provide all means of comfort to her.

It is noteworthy that Al-Faisal said to the woman during her visit to his office on Tuesday, “Your service is my duty, you’re in the hospitality of Saudi Arabia and you will be treated as a daughter of this country”.

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جهود “سبق” نجحت في حل مشكلتها وأثمرت عن لقاء طغت عليه الدموع
فهد المنجومي
سبق- مكة المكرمة
٢٧ ذو القعدة ١٤٣٣

الفيصل وعد وأوفى.. “مطلِّقة رابغ” تحتضن طفلتها بعد سلبها منها بـ”الخداع”

فهد المنجومي- سبق- مكة المكرمة: أوفى أمير منطقة مكة المكرمة، الأمير خالد الفيصل، بوعده، ومكّن مطلَّقة عربية من لقاء ابنتها (9 سنوات) في دار الرعاية والحماية الاجتماعية بجدة.

وكانت “سبق” قد أثارت قضية “مطلَّقة رابغ” مع المسؤولين والجهات المختصة عندما تلقت اتصالاً من المطلَّقة، التي أكدت أن زوجها أخذ منها طفلتها بطريق الخداع بعد حُكْم المحكمة لها بحضانتها، وذلك على الرغم من طلاقها من زوجها، واستخراج تأشيرة خروج لها، والختم على إقامتها.

ووثقت “سبق” بالصور لقاء الطفلة “ش.س” بوالدتها في دار الرعاية والحماية تنفيذاً لوعد الأمير خالد الفيصل، الذي التقى المطلَّقة البالغة من العمر (26 عاماً) صباح الثلاثاء الماضي، عندما حضرت لمكتبه بديوان الإمارة بمدينة جدة، ووعدها بالمساعدة وحل قضيتها وتمكينها من البقاء في السعودية، ومحاولة إعادة حضانة ابنتها لها.

وعلمت “سبق” أن اللقاء بين الطفلة والأم كان مؤثراً، وتساقطت فيه الدموع، فيما أكدت مصادر من داخل دار الحماية الاجتماعية أن الأم قبل حضور ابنتها كانت تمر بظروف نفسية وضغوط واضطرابات وإضراب عن الطعام، لكن سرعان ما تغيَّر حالها عندما شاهدت طفلتها واحتضنتها.

وكانت المطلَّقة قد قالت لــ”سبق” وهي تروي قصتها: “قضيت أكثر من ١٢ يوماً في توقيف مركز شرطة رابغ من دون تهمة، فقط لأني مطلَّقة، وعليه قام طليقي بختم جوازي وإقامتي بتأشيرة خروج من السعودية بعد خدعة تعرضت لها منه لأخذ ابنتي البالغة (تسع سنوات)، على الرغم من صدور صك حضانتي لها”.

وأضافت: “بدأت قصتي قبل ١٠ سنوات؛ حيث تزوجت من مواطن زوجة ثانية، ورُزقت بطفلتي الوحيدة، وبعد فترة من ولادة الطفلة طلقني زوجي، وأصدر القاضي صكاً بحضانة طفلتي لي، بشرط عدم الزواج مرة أخرى فوافقت، وأخذت الطفلة، وسافرت لبلادي”.

وتابعت: “وطوال الفترة التي قضيتها لدى أهلي لم يحضر الأب لمشاهدة ابنته، ولم يسأل عنها، وقد استغل ظروفاً طارئة نمر بها، واتصل بي وقال: [أريد أن أرجعك لعصمتي، ونعيد شمل ابنتي، وبمهر جديد]، وذكر أنه سوف يحضر فتوى تجيز زواجي منه مرة أخرى، لكن أهلي رفضوا إعادتي له، وقالوا: [هذا خائن]”.

وواصلت المرأة حديثها قائلة: “وبعد إلحاح منه ووعود وهمية قررت الموافقة على العودة إليه لظروفي المعيشية القاسية، وخطّط لهروبي من منزل أهلي للحضور للسعودية، واستخرج لي تأشيرة زوجة، وعندما حضرتُ معه لإحدى القرى بمدينة رابغ كان يطلق الوعود بإعادتي لعصمته، وكانت المفاجأة والذهول عندما حضر ومعه تذاكر سفري وجوازي مختوماً للخروج وصك طلاقي أيضاً مخططاً لسرقة ابنتي من بين أحضاني”.

وأضافت: “عندها هربت ومشيت على قدمي مسافة خمسة كيلومترات حتى وصلت إلى مركز شرطة رابغ، وحضر زوجي ومعه التذاكر والجواز المختوم، وطلب منهم تسفيري، عندها تم احتجازي لمدة تزيد على ١٢ يوماً بالتوقيف من دون سبب”.

وقد اتصلت “سبق” بالمسؤولين بمنطقة مكة المكرمة، وأبلغتهم بوضع المرأة، وصدرت توجيهات إمارة منطقة مكة المكرمة بنقلها إلى دار الرعاية والحماية الاجتماعية، وتوفير جميع سُبل الراحة والخدمة لها.

يُذكر أن الفيصل قال للمرأة عند حضورها لمكتبه الثلاثاء الماضي: “واجبي خدمتك؛ فأنت في ضيافة السعودية، وستُعاملين معاملة بنات الوطن”.

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Gli Sforzi Di “Sabq” Hanno Avuto Successo Nel Risolvere I Loro Problemi Ed Hanno Avuto Come Esito Un Incontro Funestato Dalle Lacrime
Di Fahd Al-Manjumi
Sabq – Makkah
14 Ottobre 2012
Traduzione Italiana di A.P.

Il governatore della regione di La Mecca, principe Khaled Al-Faisal, ha adempiuto alla sua promessa e ha reso possibile per una divorziata araba incontrare la figlia di nove anni presso il Care and Social Protection Home a Jeddah.

“Sabq” ha sollevato la questione della “Divorziata di Rabegh” con funzionari ed autorità competenti quando ha ricevuto una telefonata dalla divorziata, che ha confermato che il marito aveva sottratto con l’inganno sua figlia dopo che il tribunale le aveva assegnato la custodia della figlia. E nonostante questo divorzio dal marito, era timbrato sul suo passaporto e sul suo iqama un visto di uscita.

“Sabq” ha documentato e fotografato l’incontro della bambina “Sh.s” e della madre nella Care and Social Protection Home, a testimoniare la realizzazione della promessa del principe Khaled Al-Faisal. Aveva incontrato la 26 enne divorziata martedì scorso mattina quando lei era andata a trovarlo nel suo ufficio al Bureau of the Emirate a Jeddah ed aveva promesso di aiutare a risolvere il caso, di darle il permesso di stare in Arabia Saudita e di tentare di riavere la custodia di sua figlia.

“Sabq” ha saputo che l’incontro tra la bambina e la madre è stato emozionante e pieno di lacrime, come confermato da fonti interne alla House of Social Protection. Prima di incontrare sua figlia, la madre ha subito pressioni psicologiche e ha fatto uno sciopero della fame, ma è rapidamente cambiata quando ha visto sua figlia e l’ha abbracciata.

La divorziata ha detto a “Sabq” mentre raccontava la sua storia: “Sono stata detenuta per più di 12 giorni presso la stazione di polizia di Rabigh senza accuse, solo perchè sono una divorziata. E il mio ex-marito ha timbrato sul mio passaporto e sulla carta di residenza un visto di uscita dall’Arabia Saudita, dopo avermi ingannata sottraendo mia figlia di nove anni nonostante la sentenza di custodia [in mio favore].

Ha aggiunto, “La mia storia è iniziata dieci anni fa quando sono diventata la seconda moglie di un cittadino saudita e ho avuto la mia unica figlia. Poco dopo la nascita di mia figlia, ha divorziato da me. Il giudice mi ha assegnato la custodia della mia bambina, a condizione che non mi risposassi. Io ho accettato, ho preso la bambina e sono tornata nel mio paese.”

Ha continuato, “Durante tutto il periodo che ho trascorso con la mia famiglia, il padre non ha fatto visita a sua figlia né ha chiesto di lei. Ha approfittato di una situazione di emergenza che stavamo attraversando, mi ha chiamata e ha detto, ‘Voglio risposarti, avere con noi nostra figlia e pagare una nuova dote’. Ha affermato che avrebbe portato una fatwa che consentiva il nostro nuovo matrimonio ma i miei genitori hanno rifiutato e hanno detto ‘Questo è un traditore’”.

La donna ha continuato a raccontare la sua storia: “In seguito alla sua insistenza e alle false promesse, ho deciso di ritornare da lui date le mie difficili condizioni di vita. Lui ha progettato la mia fuga dalla casa dei miei genitori per tornare in Arabia Saudita, e ha ottenuto un visto per me come moglie. Quando sono andata con lui in uno dei villaggi a Rabigh, ha continuato a promettermi che mi avrebbe risposata. Con mia sorpresa e stupore è venuto da me con i biglietti aerei, il mio passaporto timbrato con un visto d’uscita e la mia sentenza di divorzio, con il piano di rubarmi mia figlia”.

Ha aggiunto, “Allora io sono fuggita e ho camminato per cinque chilometri fino alla stazione di polizia di Rabigh, dove c’era mio marito con i biglietti e il passaporto timbrato che stava chiedendo loro di deportarmi. Poi sono stata arrestata e detenuta per più di 12 giorni senza capi di imputazione”.

“Sabq” ha contattato i funzionari a La Mecca e li ha informati in merito alla situazione della donna. Sono state emesse delle direttive dall’Emirato della regione di La Mecca perchè venisse trasferita presso la Care and Social Protection Home e le venisse fornito ogni mezzo di conforto.

E’ da notare che Al-Faisal ha detto alla donna durante la visita di lei al suo ufficio martedì: “E’ mio dovere servirti, sei ospite dell’Arabia Saudita e sarai trattata come figlia di questo paese”.

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Expat Woman Divorced By Saudi And Deported; Searching For Son (Italian Translation)

photocreditimmigrationforusaDivorced, Separated And Deported
By Tamadher Al-Rehaili
Okaz/Saudi Gazette/Opinion
Jeddah
20 July 2013

Expat mother recounts her agonizing search for toddler missing from ex’s custody…

Marital problems in families are coming to the forefront once again as stories in which the suffering of victims is seemingly endless are being reported in the local media on a regular basis.

Sabah Hussein is an expatriate mother whose marriage to an abusive man eventually led to her divorce, deportation from the Kingdom and a years-long search for her two children.

Sabah recalled the events that led to her deportation and custody of her children being handed over to her ex-husband.

“My ex-husband had come to my family to ask for my hand in marriage. He claimed to be pious and made many promises so my family had peace of mind regarding my future. He promised them that I would live a life of dignity with him and that I would see my family whenever we got a chance to visit them,” said Sabah.

His first promise, according to Sabah, was a lie when he brought her into the Kingdom on an Umrah visa. She said when they lived in his village, his condition changed and good living conditions changed to all kinds of humiliation and beatings. Unemployed, he had numerous debts to pay and began beating Sabah on a regular basis.

“He was never satisfied until he saw me bleeding,” said Sabah, who eventually escaped and sought shelter at a philanthropist’s home and remained with his family until her relatives came from her home country.

“His relatives told the police that I was staying with them so they wouldn’t face problems with the authorities. Everyone tried to reconcile things between us and I returned to him but things got worse. He took my money and remaining gold jewelry. He threatened to kill me and my unborn child,” she said.

Sabah once again ran away and sought help from her husband’s relatives who informed the police and demanded that her legal status be changed. Before authorities could act, her husband divorced her and Sabah was placed in a shelter in Abha where she gave birth.

She was subsequently deported from the Kingdom and her two children were taken from her and handed over to their father.

Sabah applied to visit the Kingdom to see her two children and she was given a three-month entry visa. When she returned to the village, she found her daughter with her ex-husband’s relatives but she was unable to locate her son.

Sabah lodged an official complaint against her ex-husband, asked that she be given custody of her daughter and that her ex-husband be summoned and asked where her son was.

She was informed that he had disappeared for some time as he had several other cases pending against him in the courts. Furthermore, since she was not a permanent resident of the Kingdom, the courts refused to grant her custody of her children.

Sabah’s son is now more than two years old and she hasn’t seen him since he was several months old. She is currently trying to locate her former housemaid who she believes may have taken the boy after her ex-husband fired her.

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Divorziata, Separata, Deportata
Di Tamadher Al-Rehaili
Okaz/Saudi Gazette/Opinion
Jeddah
20 Luglio 2013
Traduzione Italiana di A.P.

I problemi coniugali nelle famiglie stanno venendo alla ribalta ancora una volta dal momento che vengono riferite regolarmente dai media locali storie nelle quali le sofferenze delle vittime sembrano senza fine.

Sabah Hussein è una madre straniera il cui matrimonio con un marito violento l’ha condotta alla fine al divorzio, alla deportazione dal Regno e ad una ricerca dei suoi due figli durata anni.

Sabah ha ricordato gli eventi che hanno portato alla sua deportazione e al trasferimento della custodia dei suoi figli al suo ex-marito.

“Il mio ex-marito era venuto dalla mia famiglia per chiedere la mia mano. Sosteneva di essere pio e ha fatto tante promesse perciò la mia famiglia aveva il cuore in pace quanto al mio futuro. Ha promesso loro che avrei vissuto una vita dignitosa con lui e che avrei visto la mia famiglia ogni volta che avessimo avuto la possibilità di andare a trovarli”, ha detto Sabah.

La sua prima promessa, secondo Sabah, è stata una bugia quando lui l’ha portata nel Regno con un visto per l’Umrah. Ha raccontato, che mentre vivevano nel villaggio di lui, lui è cambiato e il buon stiledi vita [che avevano avuto precendemente] si è mutato in umiliazioni di ogni genere e botte. Disoccupato, lui aveva numerosi debiti da pagare e ha cominciato a picchiare Sabah regolarmente.

“Non era mai contento fino a quando non mi vedeva sanguinare” ha detto Sabah, che alla fine è fuggita e ha cercato rifugio presso la casa di un filantropo, rimanendo con la sua famiglia fino a quando i parenti di lei sono venuti dal suo paese.

“I parenti di lui hanno raccontato alla polizia che stavo con loro per non avere problemi con le autorità. Ognuno cercava di aggiustare le cose tra noi ed io sono tornata da lui, ma le cose sono peggiorate. Lui si è preso i miei soldi e i gioielli d’oro rimasti. Ha minacciato di uccidere me e il mio bambino non ancora nato”, ha raccontato.

Sabah è scappata nuovamente e ha cercato aiuto dai parenti di suo marito, che hanno infomato la polizia e domandato il cambiamento del suo status legale. Prima che le autorità potessero agire, il marito ha chiesto il divorzio e Sabah è stata collocata in un alloggio ad Abha, dove ha partorito.

Successivamente, è stata deportata dal Regno e i suoi due figli le sono stati tolti e consegnati al padre.

Sabah ha fatto domanda per entrare nel Regno ed incontrare i suoi due figli e le è stato concesso un visto di entrata di tre mesi. Quando è tornata al villaggio, ha trovato sua figlia con i parenti del suo ex-marito, ma non è riuscita a rintracciare suo figlio.

Sabah ha presentato ufficialmente un’istanza contro l’ex-marito, chiedendo per sé la custodia della figlia e la convocazione del marito perchè gli fosse chiesto dove si trova il figlio.

E’ stata informata che lui era scomparso da un po’ di tempo, dal momento che c’erano parecchie altre istanze pendenti contro di lui nei tribunali. Inoltre, giacchè lei non era residente stabilmente nel Regno, i tribunali hanno rifiutato di concederle la custodia dei suoi figli.

Il figlio di Sabah adesso ha più di due anni, e lei non lo vede da quando lui aveva alcuni mesi. Attualmente sta cercando di rintracciare la sua ex-cameriera, che pensa potrebbe aver preso il bambino dopo che l’ex-marito l’ha licenziata.

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