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If you are in the Dammam-Khobar-Jubail-Dhahran area or close by, please get in touch with me. Especially if you are a homeschooling family. Email me taraummomar at hotmail dot com and I will share my number for Whatsapp and/or Telegram. JazakumAllahu khair.

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photocreditbeginnersguideforwordpressI have too many categories to display on the sidebar. So I made a separate page for them to give a better idea of FHWS content. Click on the link to view all relevant posts for each category, arranged alphabetically. That should make it easier to help you find your subject of interest but don’t forget you can also use the search option located on the sidebar. To narrow down the number of results, type your word/words with quotation marks like this, “word”. Thanks for visiting and I hope you find what you are looking for!

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Drug Testing Now An Obligatory Part Of Pre-Marital Medical Checkups

photocredittreatmentandrecoverysystemsDrugs Test Obligatory For Expats Wishing To Marry Saudi Women
By Fatima Al-Dubais
Okaz/Saudi Gazette | Dammam
8 September 2016

Instructions have been issued by supreme authorities to make drug tests part of the pre-marital medical check-ups especially for expatriates wishing to marry Saudi women or vice versa, informed sources have said.

The pre-marital medical check-up is obligatory for both Saudi men and women.

Authorities said foreigners should run this test before submitting their marriage applications.

Saudi men wishing to marry foreign women and foreign women wishing to marry Saudi men should obtain the approval of the concerned authorities before tying the knot.

The sources said the directives will prevent embarrassment the men and women usually experience for undergoing this particular test since it has now been made an integral part of the pre-marital medical examination.

They recalled that a number of official and public requests were made in the past few years calling for the drug tests before marriage. The sources said the test will prevent a number of family problems which might crop up as a result of one of the couples being a drug addict.

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Judges Acting As Guardians In The Marriages Of Saudi And Non-Saudi Women

photocreditinlightpressSaudi Judges Help 394 Filipinas Get Married
Gulf News | Manama
By Habib Toumi, Bureau Chief
23 August 2016

Judges in Saudi Arabia helped 394 Filipinas get married by acting as their guardians in 2015, official records show.

Under Saudi laws, a woman can get married after a guardian — usually her father or brother — approves the wedding.

However, in case the guardian is absent or does not approve the union, a judge may step in and assume the guardianship.

According to the figures released by the justice ministry, judges acted as guardians last year in 517 wedding contracts, with Filipinas representing the vast majority.

The figures showed that judges helped 16 Saudi women get married through their guardianship.

Three of the Saudi women married Filipinos, and three others married Syrians, while in the other marriages, the husbands were from Egypt, Jordan, India, the US and Yemen.

Foreigners make up around one-third of the total population of Saudi Arabia estimated at 30 million people.

The justice ministry said there were 4,983 divorces in 2015 — attributed mainly to irreconcilable differences, problems with spouses, the long absence of the husband, the imprisonment of a spouse or difficulties in consummating the marriage.

According to the figures, 4,425 Saudi couples were divorced last year.

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Ministry Of Justice Surveys 160 Saudi Men Married To Non-Saudis

photocreditalarabiya5% Of Foreign Women Who Married Saudis Are Maids
Arab News | Jeddah
24 July 2016

Five percent of 160 marriages of Saudi men to foreign women in 2013 and 2014 were to domestic workers, says a Ministry of Justice survey.

The Civil Status Court in Jeddah witnesses the signing of a marriage contract between a domestic worker and her sponsor after the man obtains permission from the relevant bodies that allows him to marry the foreigner and the domestic worker gets authorization from her family to facilitate the marriage procedures, said sources.

The survey said of the 160 marriages, 90 were with Moroccan women, 30 with Indonesian women, 13 with Filipinas, 22 with Sri Lankan women and five with Tunisian women.

Ahmad Al-Mabi, member of the ministry’s governance committee, said marriage procedures are similar to those followed for marrying Saudi women: The man has to apply to the governorate, which in turn refers the application to the Interior Ministry; after the approval, it is sent to the Civil Status court, which oversees the signing of the contract.

He said domestics need authorization from their guardians through their consulates/embassies.

He said Saudis marry maids either because the wife is ill or neglects her husband, or because many women leave the running of the house to the maid, which gives them the chance to get closer to their sponsors.

Psychologist Hani Al-Ghamidi said when a man marries his domestic worker, people criticize him and the community rejects the idea, but if one looks at the situation from a humane point of view, a man marrying such a woman is perfectly normal.

He added that working women might not look after their husbands the way they should, while domestic workers who are always there, attract the attention of the men, which leads to such marriages.

Al-Ghamidi confirmed that there are many stories of illegal relations between domestics and sponsors, but there are no clear figures.

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2015 Statistics For Saudi/Non-Saudi Marriages

photocreditafpSaudi Women Not Far Behind Men In Marrying Foreigners
Arab News | Riyadh
23 July 2016

Saudi women have joined Saudi men in their penchant for foreigners as life partners. The Ministry of Justice revealed in new statistics that the number of marriage contracts of Saudi men to non-Saudi women last year reached 3,596, while female Saudi marriage contracts to non-Saudi males reached 3,352.

The statistical reports stated that the number of divorces among Saudis last year reached 40,000, representing almost a third of the marriage contracts in the same year, of around 133,000 contracts.

The report explained that the divorce contracts issued from Saudi courts for Saudis in Makkah region reached 10,345, 26 percent of the total divorce contracts issued by various courts in all regions of the Kingdom during the past year, followed by Riyadh, which reached 9,470 contracts, or 23 percent.

The divorce contracts in the Eastern Province reached 4,727, or 12 percent of total divorce contracts.

Statistics also revealed that the number of divorces between Saudi men to non-Saudi women last year reached 1,593, while divorces between Saudi women and non-Saudi men reached 700. The divorces between non-Saudi men and non-Saudi women reached 3,686.

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“Expired” Saudi Women Are Increasingly Gravitating Towards Marrying Non-Saudi Men

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By Rym Ghazal
The National – Opinion
20 July 2016

“I just got so tired of Arab men and their games.”

This month, a Saudi friend announced that she is marrying an American man. She is one of seven friends who, over the past two years, have found love and the man of their dreams outside their community and culture.

She is the third to marry an American. Two others married Italians, one married a French man and the other married a Canadian.

While we shouldn’t really be making a big deal of nationalities, what is interesting is that all of these women were in their thirties and had been marked “expired” by their families. And, quite openly and rudely, they were told by some Arab men they had met that they were too old to be valued as a potential wife.

Of course, it is more complicated than simple matters of age and backgrounds, and we probably shouldn’t generalise – there are many, many happy marriages between Arabs – but there is something here to explore.

By no means can we say that this is something new, given that older female members of my own family have married European men. At the same time, there are no proper statistics on this for us to be able to make sweeping statements such as “more and more Arab women are marrying non-Arabs”.

The high-profile marriage of Lebanese lawyer Amal Alamuddin to the American actor George Clooney in 2014 brought some of these discussions to light. At the time, she was in her thirties, quite independent and strong – and these were given as reasons why Clooney appreciated her.

Taking a step back, I have heard over and over again that women who have worked hard and are pioneers in their own rights have difficulty finding partners who appreciate them as they are.

“I feel I am constantly being assessed if I am worthy of becoming his wife,” said a friend who ended up marrying an Italian man.

“My husband loves me as I am. And those things my Arab ex didn’t like or took for granted, my husband loves and appreciates,” she says.

She, like my other friends who married foreigners, said that she felt she could be herself around her husband.

What is interesting is that I have also heard this from Arab men who married foreigners. They even admit they treat the foreign women better than they did their Arab exes. Why do that? Why do we put on masks and act out roles when we are around someone from our own nationality or background?

Arab men have been marrying women from different backgrounds for centuries, but Arab women have generally stayed within their own circles. The few rebellious ones who married outside their culture had to make great sacrifices.

I am all for mixing nationalities, because I come from a mixed background. I find that embracing differences and loving someone for their hearts and who they are is more important than how they “should be” or how they are on paper. But each to their own; people find happiness in their own special way.

Last week I addressed the issue of “uqdet el khawaja” (the foreigner complex), referring to how some Arabs appear to prefer to work with and buy from foreigners rather than from their own people. While many hate to admit it exists, it even makes an appearance when we are looking for partners.

It should not come as a surprise, given this phenomenon, that some Arabs seek to marry outside of the culture.

These are sensitive issues and difficult to discuss without ruffling feathers. Whatever the case, it is not only Arabs who think that certain marriages can change their lives for the better. Ultimately, it is really all in our heads and only we can start to change that.


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